Thursday, January 16, 2014

After 2 months of hemming and hawing the bankground check papers are completed and notarized and ready to be turned in to start this whole adoption process. I find this terrifying and exciting and this is only the first, easiest little baby step. After this there are home inspections and parenting classes and then possibly an ACTUAL ALIVE CHILD thing. The inside of my head looks something like this: Holy shit I can't wait until we have our own kid. Holy shit what the hell am I thinking; I cannot believe I think I can do this. On the other hand, I know meth heads who are doing this. Surely I can do that well. Way to set the bar really high, Megs. What? I'm trying to manage expectations. By setting the bar so low you might actually get the kid taken away right after you get it adopted? I'm pretty lucky there doesn't appear to be much of a psychological evaluation involved in this process. I don't know that my prospective children are all that lucky there doesn't appear to be much of a psychological evaluation, but whatever. I will be the boss of them anyway.


  1. It's always struck me as kind of funny how there are so many hoops to jump through to adopt a baby (home inspections, evaluations up the wazoo) and yet... none of things happen to people that just decide to birth their own kids. It just seems odd to me that anybody can just procreate, no forms required, and yet... the well-meaning individuals who want to offer a home to a child that isn't theirs, well. That's a huge debacle. I mean, I get WHY, it just seems unbalanced. You know?

    1. I mean... no one can tell you that you can't have a baby, if you're actually birthing it. And yet you have to fill out mountains of paperwork to adopt and then they CAN tell you that you can't have one. IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE TO ME. I think if we're going to make sure all babies are going to good homes, everyone should have to complete a home inspection or evaluation or whatever. Only fair, right?

  2. I agree. I understand that there need to be hoops - you don't want to hand a kid over to a molester or an abuser if you can help it. But those people can just have their own kids, so...

  3. I totally identify with the whole "if they can do it surely I can" thing. I think the idea of being a parent is terrifying. We're (hopefully) about to take that leap (omg I can't believe I'm saying that), and I tell myself all the time "if so-and-so's kids are still alive, surely I can pull this off."